Genuine question from a man who honestly doesn't understand the comment - how can breasts be embarrassing? I can see situations where they may be in the way or otherwise temporarily inconvenient, or they attract too much attention, but being embarrassed seems odd.
I think the issue is not what men might think think of any particular woman's breasts- but that so many men have a sense of entitlement to make intrusive personal comments to (lots of) women. This is totally disrespectful. And overall, is a form of bullying. So I am not surprised that young girls have recently been tricked by the trans bandwagon, because when they reach puberty they are sickened by the way women are generally treated in a sexist society.
Men often stare at my breasts when they speak to me, even when I am dressed modestly. It's not even subtle. The casual disrespect is infuriating, and these days I just embarrass them by telling them to stop staring at my tits (one or another, anyway) and I cut them from my friend-group--the older I get, the less interest I have in entertaining boors at all.
But younger women are more likely to internalize this particular sense of shame and violation, so it's no shock to me that some opt to remove their breasts entirely.
Edited so it sounds less like I'm eager to be rude all the time, ha.
Yeah, I'd say my breasts have caused me less of an issue than most because I'm very small-chested and can count on one hands the number of times a man I wasn't intimate with has looked at my breasts and not my face (but, like, I had a boss who did that) but it's just disturbing, pure objectification.
Thank you both for taking my question seriously, and not taking offence. Of course what you describe is humiliating - it is wrong. My wife has complained of men that address her chest, not her face, and gets angry about it. I don't understand why anyone would do it - breasts add very little to most communication, unlike eyes, lips, and hands - so I'm starting to gain some insight. I'm not sure I could be embarrassed about a part of my body because of the way some other people regard it, but I now have an inkling of how others could.
It's because they weren't part of your body, and then they suddenly ARE, and according to many, they're suddenly one of the most important parts. And people are judging you on them. What happened to the rest of you? It's a disconcerting thing even when kept in perspective by wise parents.
Thank you - that is something I never could have thought of, but it makes so much sense! Alien growths that have a power of their own and change what can be done with/by the body - all of a sudden it starts to sound like a horror story...
ThatтАЩs the catch-22 isnтАЩt it? No matter what they look like itтАЩs wrong or weird or obtrusive in someoneтАЩs opinion and there is so much judgment. In a weird way I can almost understand why some women would think itтАЩs easier to remove them from the equation altogether.
Breasts can be embarrassing, so maybe that's why some imagine that they will be more confident without them.
Genuine question from a man who honestly doesn't understand the comment - how can breasts be embarrassing? I can see situations where they may be in the way or otherwise temporarily inconvenient, or they attract too much attention, but being embarrassed seems odd.
I think the issue is not what men might think think of any particular woman's breasts- but that so many men have a sense of entitlement to make intrusive personal comments to (lots of) women. This is totally disrespectful. And overall, is a form of bullying. So I am not surprised that young girls have recently been tricked by the trans bandwagon, because when they reach puberty they are sickened by the way women are generally treated in a sexist society.
Men often stare at my breasts when they speak to me, even when I am dressed modestly. It's not even subtle. The casual disrespect is infuriating, and these days I just embarrass them by telling them to stop staring at my tits (one or another, anyway) and I cut them from my friend-group--the older I get, the less interest I have in entertaining boors at all.
But younger women are more likely to internalize this particular sense of shame and violation, so it's no shock to me that some opt to remove their breasts entirely.
Edited so it sounds less like I'm eager to be rude all the time, ha.
Yeah, I'd say my breasts have caused me less of an issue than most because I'm very small-chested and can count on one hands the number of times a man I wasn't intimate with has looked at my breasts and not my face (but, like, I had a boss who did that) but it's just disturbing, pure objectification.
Thank you both for taking my question seriously, and not taking offence. Of course what you describe is humiliating - it is wrong. My wife has complained of men that address her chest, not her face, and gets angry about it. I don't understand why anyone would do it - breasts add very little to most communication, unlike eyes, lips, and hands - so I'm starting to gain some insight. I'm not sure I could be embarrassed about a part of my body because of the way some other people regard it, but I now have an inkling of how others could.
It's because they weren't part of your body, and then they suddenly ARE, and according to many, they're suddenly one of the most important parts. And people are judging you on them. What happened to the rest of you? It's a disconcerting thing even when kept in perspective by wise parents.
Thank you - that is something I never could have thought of, but it makes so much sense! Alien growths that have a power of their own and change what can be done with/by the body - all of a sudden it starts to sound like a horror story...
ThatтАЩs the catch-22 isnтАЩt it? No matter what they look like itтАЩs wrong or weird or obtrusive in someoneтАЩs opinion and there is so much judgment. In a weird way I can almost understand why some women would think itтАЩs easier to remove them from the equation altogether.