Answers run the gamut from “a few seconds” to “decades” but I’m struck by the number of answers in the one day to one month range:
About a week to go from "I'm perfectly happy with my gender and my body, so why does this coming out story resonate with me so strongly?" to "I've been experiencing dysphoria for years, and it could well be gender dysphoria", another month or so to "I think I might be trans", and another five months or so to "I've made this list of things I know about myself. Looking at the evidence, I'm probably trans."
Currently in "maybe" phase. 4 months since "am I?" Brought on through finding r/egg_irl
Finding egg_irl had me in am I for 2 days of mental breakdowns in the shower right now I'm also in maybe
For me something like 2 months maybe less It was going faster thanks to an adhd hyperfocus on a trans man on YouTube or more like three hyperfoci. That were about a week apart maybe a bit more. My sense of time is not great.
About a month to go from “very passionate ally who thinks trans people are the bravest most beautiful people ever” to “I think I’m questioning my gender”
Approximately 1 minute lol did a gender swap on face app and just went "fuuuuuck" cause I knew something had changed for me inside lol
About a week. Transitioning started immediately after. Even telling people, dressing, etc. Hormones acquired in two months.
I was in active denial from the start... Took a good 6 months of HRT before I was convinced that I was trans xD
7 days more or less First 2 days was me thinking I might be non-binary. The next 2 days was me playing with the idea of being ftm. The evening of the 4th day my best friend started referring to me with male pronouns and it felt so right it just clicked. Over the course of the next 3 days as I got used to thinking of myself as a dude, I just became increasingly sure to the point where I put myself on the waiting list for transitioning. I am trans, I've known for a month now! :)
Gender dysphoria Bible put my egg through a blender… I was laying in bed and literally every few paragraphs I’d read something new that got me to verbally go “fuck… FUCK… cmon that too?… Jesus… AH FOR FUCKS SAKE”
September 26-Am I trans 11:30 am-11:35 am September 27-Maybe I'm trans to I'm trans
One long weekend.
Couple hours. I lost everything I held dear. So I was about to end it when I had a dream which made me search for the underlying reason of my depression. Denial first, acceptance after a couple hours.
Somewhere between 14 years and a month, depending how you look at it. I was ok with saying I was "androgynous" for about 14 years before I really stopped to think about what that means. Then a month of crisis before coming out.
depending on how you look at it, either a month or 38 years or something in between
Eh, for me it went... "Maybe I'm trans" "Am I trans?" "I am trans" That took a matter of a couple of days for me, my brain tends to work overtime with things like that. Afterwards I started on this repetitive cycle of "I am trans" "But what if I'm not though?" "No, I definitely am trans" "But I could be faking it" "Maybe I'm not trans" "Oh god, what if I'm not trans??!!?" "I'm trans" and so on…
11 days from not knowing at all to coming out as a transwoman to my bdsm community. 👸🏼
About a month or two. The real trouble was accepting the conclusion, not reaching it.
And then, as always, there are all the replies like this one, with even the briefest narratives teeming with alternative explanations, like black-dog depression:
About 3 years with 2 year gap in the middle between 'am I trans' and 'maybe I'm trans' when I stopped SSRI and depression made decision for me.
In some ways, the most interesting response is this one:
"Somewhere between 14 years and a month, depending how you look at it. I was ok with saying I was "androgynous" for about 14 years before I really stopped to think about what that means. Then a month of crisis before coming out."
'Ok saying I was androgynous for about 14 years'...
It would be fascinating to talk to this person in depth, and what they mean when they say '..before I really stopped to think what that means'.
It sounds as if they accepted being gender-non-conforming for years.
But then what happened in the 'month of crisis'? Was it a month of falling down an internet rabbit hole?
So weird that so many people who "dont't exist" (ROGD transitioners) would be posting their stories.