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If someone thinks they were born in the wrong body and you hated their guts, and you really wanted to mess up their lives, maybe the meanest thing you could possibly do is agree with them.

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This feels very “I need to be punished” for being my deficient body therefore I’m going to do it to myself. How can doctors not see that they are assisting in self harm?

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Yeah I asked one pro-Trans Med Practitioner if they believed it was good standard practice to put anorexics on a water diet or to hand cutters razor blades. They went back to the the garbage mantra - I am saving lives. I responded: Correction - you are saving your life from poverty.

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This. The self-harm/martyr angle is so obvious. Great analysis as usual, Eliza M.

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Yes, two angles - the religious self-harm , with a binder sounding awfully like a hairshirt cilice, to say nothing of religious castrations... That , and the drug addiction angle, with "Yes I know it's bad for me and no, I cannot stop"

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The part that makes me want to scream is that I’ve heard at least 4 very famous Professional Dommes (Dominatrix not delayed onset muscles soreness ) talk about how certain specia clients beg them to cut off their Johnsons (to use the safe for work term). These women know how to use blindfolds and cold butter knives and rubber bands to simulate the act.

They put the client through the experience without causing themselves moral injury! They know to watch out for the fine line of causing hurt rather than harm. Religious extremists have a long history of self harm in a ritualized container. We’ve lost that it seems and have poisoned the healing halls of hospitals.

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When the med system figured out how to monetize self-harm, it was all systems - Go for the Green.

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🎯

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To whom you are attracted sexually is purely subjective and therefore cannot reasonably be contested by an outside observer. Where you decide to live your life on a spectrum of superficial, stereotypical male to female attributes (and we all do) is also purely subjective and similarly cannot be questioned. However, your biological sex reflects an objective reality which cannot be changed by your subjective personal view and futile attempts to do so can result in serious health impacts to you as well as actual harms to members of the sex you are impersonating (especially women). Finally, others who are grounded in objective reality should never be forced to accept your subjective version of your actual biological sex.

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Very well said, thanks.

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The underlying theme - implicit but not stated - is that these people have no choice but to transition because they “are trans.” In other words, they are born incapable of having a reasonably happy (or not miserable) life unless they live as if they are the opposite sex and alter their appearance, as much as possible, to that of the opposite sex.

The real lie is that anyone is born with the necessity to medically and socially transition. It is a cruel lie that drives many thousands of vulnerable individuals to live in pretense and weaken their bodies.

The truth is that a few people may end up living a great life after medically and socially transitioning, but it is a difficult series of choices that are highly unlikely to improve life for anyone. If some who go that route find themselves well suited to the lie, and don’t mind the physical sacrifices, and are also lucky enough to suffer less physical harm than most, they may thrive, but I would venture that even most of those whose lives are fine after transition would have been at least equally happy w/o it. And the vast majority end up worse off because of it - due to the lie they live and/or the physical sacrifices they make, as well as the limitations they put on themselves (e.g. no biological kids, sex being more problematic, finding partners being more difficult, etc.)

But I guess I could be wrong.

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All this stuff makes sense when you remember that the end goal is transhumanism. Separating minds from bodies is just the first step. Google Jennifer Pritzker, Jon Stryker, and George Soros, three billionaires who have been funding this insanity for years. They are very open about the fact that transhumanism is their end goal.

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Problem with Transhumanism is that it is an unoriginal pseudo-scientific packaging of 17th Century writings of Rene Descartes . Mary Shelley was way before her time writing Frankenstein in 1818 in response to the horrific outcomes of a mechanized medicine - moving away from natural medicine of herbs. I think Frankenstein should be required reading in every highschool.

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Outdated and unoriginal it may be, but these men actually think it can be done with developing technology.

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The men who "believe" this are delusional - med Practitioner w/ God Complex or patient who is driven by obsession that transition will fix their psychological/emotional pain. Fixing a mental/emotional problem with extreme physical interventions - is like jumping off a cliff (without a parachute) because you want to fly. Anyone actually interested in truth which delusional are allergic go - can easily fund all the harms of medical transition - after wading past the fluffy propaganda. Of course their anchoring bias will stop at propaganda because it affirms their delusion.

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I keep thinking about your earlier post where a chubby girl worries that she can’t pass as a woman. This gets to the heart of the regressive nature of gender ideology. “Being a woman” is now something that is filtered through the AGP lens which is itself filtered through media presentations of femininity that are, in fact, defined by the male gaze. From Clara Bow to Marilyn Monroe on screen femininity has been constructed by men’s desire. These days in big cities one can see the current reductive Kardashian model of femininity everywhere. Bronzed and botoxed, it’s femininity designed by a draggy AI prompt and woe to the girl who doesn’t measure up.

Regarding this young woman’s complaint about not getting a man’s upbringing and supposed “knowledge of masculinity” that entails…well, join the club. No operating instructions were provided to most of us. We wing it the best we can.

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Yeah, I agree with all of that, and that *some* (maybe most) of us males don't get great instruction, but there are inherent differences between our boyhood and any girl's experience, so the "complaint" is valid - a woman can't ever *have had* a boyhood - it's just incredible that this was never thought of before, or brought to the girl's attention, indeed was suppressed with all the lies about being "really" male.

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What the standard TRA response used to be - back in the OG days when this insanity was mostly TIMs trying to get into MichFest and we "TERFs" would observe that they didn't belong in a space for women b/c besides being MALE, they were socialized as men b/c they were raised as boys - was something along the lines of: "I was never a boy, I was always a girl, I had a girlhood."

So this (presumably) young woman's realization is... progress, maybe? 🤷

Mostly, it's just heartbreaking. Or it would be if affirming this insanity, especially marketing it to children, weren't being forced on the rest of us at every level of government and society.

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now?!

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The tragedy of these poor cult victims waking up, or half waking up, is dreadful. It sometimes makes me want to find all the rich men pushing the trans garbage and cut their dicks off, but some of them did that already and apparently got off on it.

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it is very sad.

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Long Chu comes across as a bored psychopath who treats his life as an experiment.

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that's not how psychopaths treat themselves.

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You could be right, but I understand psychopaths to be people who are sensation-seeking in a calculating way that is fearless of the consequences. It just seems to me that such an instinct, turned inward by auto-erotic porn consumption, could resemble Long Chu's particular disposition. Interested to hear other theories though.

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Actually psychopaths mostly are overcompensating with coping strategies (yes, even sadism is a coping strategy) to the degree that they can avoid a total sense of deadness inside or extreme self-loathing. I have yet to see an example of a "happy and chill" psychopath.

Chu - is psychopathic in his obsessive need for affirmation and of an obviously brutal lifestyle choice and being narcisscistic enough to be pleased with his influence in signing up more members to the cult. He is literally going out of his way to cash in on his self-styled victimhood by emotionally manipulating his readers and potentially influencing further victimization of other gender-confused souls. What do you call a person who intentionally profits from making the world worse and spreading suffering by disseminating harmful world view?

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a business man?

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Yep - many business men rate really high on the psychopathy scale - according to the latest studies. From the state of this country - with so much wealth and still so much suffering, I am not surprised. Of course - businesswomen can be psychopaths as well, but psychopathy is more common in men.

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but are those the same people who chop of bits. more likely they ''identify'' while keeping them and harass others.

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Communists, fascists, Nazis?

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Gender dysphoria cannot be solved by cutting of dicks or breasts. It cannot be solved by poisoning the body. It can be solved by getting the deluded child off the internet and doing something useful like digging a ditch.

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This whole movement is fed by nihilistic fatalism which is the result of the grand old tradition of psychological pathologization of normal life struggles & emotions. It makes me steaming mad that people are sold a life of victimhood as the ONLY way to deal with gender dysphoria.

Gender dysphoria has been needlessly inflated into this HUGE deal which is really a smokescreen for social awkwardness of autism/adhd or same-sex attraction leading to social isolation and bullying; internalized homophobia due to conservative family or community; sexual assault; bodily disassociation due alexythymia, trauma, or mental health pharma, parental favoritism toward opposite sex; and so many more REAL life issues that CAN be addressed practically. And in doing so people could find peace with themselves and happiness in their lives.

But gender dysphoria will never fix their pain - because it was never the MAIN problem or problems in the first place. It is a huge bait and switch. And the corrupt medical system will never alert them to this because why loose these golden goose? So these folks cling to Transition desperately because it is the ONLY solution they have ever been offered.

This was my case as well, as a young woman diagnosed with BiPolar Disorder. I found out the hard way that drugs did not work for me. And decided to find my way out of my cyclical depression & manias - it took me a while- but I did it by fixing my life problems, unhealthy mindsets, learning emotional regulation and resilience, improving my nutritional and overall health practices. But MOST of all I refused to take on the burden of victimhood dooming me to a substandard & worsening life. Robbing people of agency over their lives unnecessarily is at the Root of all mental and emotional despair. And this is what our allistic medical system does best.

As a Creative Wellness Coach - my mission is to call BS on any protocol that victimizes my clients into a codependant relationship to the medical system - where they are guaranteed to NEVER get better, just to muddle by - at best.

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Okay these days I'm mad about "therapy" and in these confessions I hear therapy-discourse. I might be off base but I have seen (and experienced) people using therapy to justify bad situations or bad decisions. The therapy itself helps justify it and confirm it, because therapy is about learning how you "feel" and then validating it. There is no check on this--the other people involved in a situation are not there to add a different perspective, and therapists are usually trained to validate (otherwise the client might walk out).

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Those people are not true therapists - they are scam artists who want a regular paycheck. And coincidentally people who go to them never get better. As a Coach I am goal oriented - and am frank with people that they will need to do work on themselves and lives if they want to see progress. I am kind and compassionate about it but I won't blow smoke up someone's butt for a paycheck.

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“because therapy is about learning how you "feel" and then validating it” Well, terrible therapy is!

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For the love of God, these folks need a hobby. I didn’t think narcissism could get this bad. Glibness aside, a big dose of care for someone else and count your blessings would go a long way to helping these poor individuals . If you had to get up and make breakfast for someone else everyday, or get your significant other to the train at a certain time, or visit your elderly nana in a nursing home weekly, you might not have time to gaze unhappily at your flayed penis or your always-going - to- be - a- wound fake vagina (let alone your navel.) Who said we get the childhood we expected? I can’t go back to age 8 and be Robin Hood, or age 18 and play guitar like Jimmy Page (maybe Johnny Ramone, which is fine.) As Popeye said, “I yam what I yam.”

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Regarding the Reddit Post - Here is a quote from one of the commenters who is 35 and ONLY his poor fiance knows her long lost history -

No, we'll never be biological males. The sooner we accept this DNA limit, the sooner we can work on accepting who and what we are.

We are not cis males, but we can be men.

And men don't need to produce sperm to be men.

Men don't need to achieve natural erections to be men.

Men don't need to get their spouses pregnant to be men.

What is ironic - Is that any potential transitioner could use the same logic to AVOID the whole mess :

We will NEVER be biological males -( so it is best not to start a hellscape of a goose chase to try to become something one will never become )

The sooner we accept this DNA limit, the sooner we can work on accepting who and what we are. (Yeah! Accept that we are WOMEN and are NOT born in the wrong bodies, we just need to figure out WHY we hate being women in women's bodies - because that is not a natural or healthy thought. Heal the unhealthy thought, not destroy the healthy body due to the unhealthy thoughts).

We are not cis males, but we can be men. ( We are women and can never be men).

And men don't need to produce sperm to be men. ( Men need to have the natural foundations of a reproductive system to be men. And any man who cannot produce sperm - could again be limiting themselves in long term romance - and God Forbid this woman realizes she wants to have her own children. Oops0

Men don't need to achieve natural erections to be men. (Again - another limitation on dating pool - not having a natural erection or a real phallus is a definite turn-off for all partners who do not live in the Trans bubble of acceptance of experimental body-modifications.).

Men don't need to get their spouses pregnant to be men. (But what if she wants to get pregnant some day? She just needs to suck it up - when it comes to inevitable sterility and all that entails).

Basically the commenter is saying - You will fail fabulously, but we are cheering you on, because it is too painful for us to be reminded of the shitshow we made of our lives and that we don't have the courage to go backward or that it is actually too late for us. Misery loves company - should be the Transactivist Mantra.

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Brilliant and heartbreaking.

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"Anyone who knows that I’m trans won’t see me as a real man, only a delusional girl who’s trying to be a man."

The operative word here is "delusional." She has no right to hold herself out as gay man or to expect that others will honor that delusion. Gay is not the mere state of mind she thinks it is. It's also the quality and the entirety of a gay man's relationship with his male body. The only people who are more deluded on this point are any same-sex attracted men who affirm such delusions.

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Thank you for bringing these conversations to a deeper level—one about real humans in an imperfect world, where sometimes our best choices just don’t live up to the dreams in our hearts. We were made to reach for the stars but when we find they’re unattainable, the only thing left is to remind ourselves that we’re made of stardust. Sometimes all we can do is take the next breath, pick ourselves up off the floor, and face another day.

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