I used to think LGBTIQA++ organisations were well meaning and just out of balance in favour of the Q and the T. I just wanted them to give reasonable, equitable attention to actual lesbians and gays. Now, I think they are amongst the biggest enemies to homosexual well-being and are actively working to harm us. How much of this is conscio…
I used to think LGBTIQA++ organisations were well meaning and just out of balance in favour of the Q and the T. I just wanted them to give reasonable, equitable attention to actual lesbians and gays. Now, I think they are amongst the biggest enemies to homosexual well-being and are actively working to harm us. How much of this is conscious or deliberate, and how much is just mindless tribalism ("Gender good! Everyone else right-wing and bad!") I still don't know.
Yeah. I'm gay and ALMOST part of the Stonewall generation (I landed in the Village a few years after the uprising). I feel completely excluded by the gay community now, which has been badly fooled by the trans nonsense. I get thrown off of gay sites now because of my comments. It doesn't help that I also have negative views of drag queens, who mock women. Now, if there were "drag kings" who mocked the machismo and/or the immaturity of men, I might feel better about drag queens.
Totally. I've got to the point of avoiding anything rainbow or pride-themed and being quite mistrustful of other lesbians unless I've sussed them out on this issue. It's taken me a while to acknowledge the pain that comes from that, the loss that's involved. It's an incredible relief, almost exhilarating, to meet other homosexuals who share (or even tolerate) my views. There's something a little pathetic about feeling so damn happy to just know a few people I can be honest with, who aren't horrified by me. Feels like Closet 2.0.
Well, it's not so bad for me because I'm older and mostly retired. But I do have my own problems. I am a serious poet who, strangely enough, is writing the best poetry of my life in my old age. I had a knock-down, drag-out argument via email with a poetry editor who was going to publish my poems but then found out about my anti-trans views. Naturally enough, he won't publish them now. (Sorry to those of you who have already heard this story.) I am now trying to cultivate a relationship with another poetry editor who is also a liberal. She publishes a super-liberal online journal which is all about social justice. So I told her that I was a liberal except for trans ideology, which I am against, and now she is contacting me less. I think she is trying to decide, "Do I accept his poems because they are really good, or do I ostracize him because he might be prejudiced?" Right now she has five of my poems submitted to her, and I think I'll find out the answer when she decides whether to accept or reject them.
But I have read about other people, like you, who have lost friends over this issue.
(Note: I have just changed my name on Substack because I am going to publish my own articles, and I don't want trans maniacs tracking me down and causing me trouble. However, I may choose to go back to my real name. Perry is my middle name, and James is my mother's maiden name.)
I used to think LGBTIQA++ organisations were well meaning and just out of balance in favour of the Q and the T. I just wanted them to give reasonable, equitable attention to actual lesbians and gays. Now, I think they are amongst the biggest enemies to homosexual well-being and are actively working to harm us. How much of this is conscious or deliberate, and how much is just mindless tribalism ("Gender good! Everyone else right-wing and bad!") I still don't know.
Yeah. I'm gay and ALMOST part of the Stonewall generation (I landed in the Village a few years after the uprising). I feel completely excluded by the gay community now, which has been badly fooled by the trans nonsense. I get thrown off of gay sites now because of my comments. It doesn't help that I also have negative views of drag queens, who mock women. Now, if there were "drag kings" who mocked the machismo and/or the immaturity of men, I might feel better about drag queens.
Totally. I've got to the point of avoiding anything rainbow or pride-themed and being quite mistrustful of other lesbians unless I've sussed them out on this issue. It's taken me a while to acknowledge the pain that comes from that, the loss that's involved. It's an incredible relief, almost exhilarating, to meet other homosexuals who share (or even tolerate) my views. There's something a little pathetic about feeling so damn happy to just know a few people I can be honest with, who aren't horrified by me. Feels like Closet 2.0.
Well, it's not so bad for me because I'm older and mostly retired. But I do have my own problems. I am a serious poet who, strangely enough, is writing the best poetry of my life in my old age. I had a knock-down, drag-out argument via email with a poetry editor who was going to publish my poems but then found out about my anti-trans views. Naturally enough, he won't publish them now. (Sorry to those of you who have already heard this story.) I am now trying to cultivate a relationship with another poetry editor who is also a liberal. She publishes a super-liberal online journal which is all about social justice. So I told her that I was a liberal except for trans ideology, which I am against, and now she is contacting me less. I think she is trying to decide, "Do I accept his poems because they are really good, or do I ostracize him because he might be prejudiced?" Right now she has five of my poems submitted to her, and I think I'll find out the answer when she decides whether to accept or reject them.
But I have read about other people, like you, who have lost friends over this issue.
(Note: I have just changed my name on Substack because I am going to publish my own articles, and I don't want trans maniacs tracking me down and causing me trouble. However, I may choose to go back to my real name. Perry is my middle name, and James is my mother's maiden name.)