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Feb 17, 2022Liked by Eliza Mondegreen

Wow, Eliza - your writing is so powerful. I wish I could express myself half as well as this. You have perfectly expressed how some adults are failing their children. I will encourage people to read this. Thank you.

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Feb 17, 2022Liked by Eliza Mondegreen

Your writing is a gift. You express the essence of this problem in such a clear eyed and heartrending way. I’m saving this to share with others.

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I sometimes wonder if some adults have become so lost that they're looking for gods or saviors in children. It could all be a giant projection of these adults' feelings of immaturity, insecurity, and need for parenting. I guess I'm sort of thinking of when children are "parentified" by immature parents. What happens to these children is not healthy or fair but the parents will oftentimes walk blindly into this situation not recognizing anything except their own need for support.

It happens quite often that children are the ones to manifest "symptoms" or behavior problems when there is dysfunction in the family. I'm wondering if that doesn't apply to our societal "family" as well.

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I guess these are the modern day "indigo children." /eyeroll

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Feb 17, 2022·edited Feb 17, 2022Liked by Eliza Mondegreen

That's interesting. I was vaguely familiar with the concept but found a good article from awhile back https://www.nytimes.com/2006/01/12/fashion/thursdaystyles/are-they-here-to-save-the-world.html

I definitely think a lot of this is a reflection of what's happening for adults/parents. There seems to be a massive regression taking place for a certain section of the population.

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This is where the truth & reconciliation will really be needed. Those who are clearly complacent about the sexual assaults on vulnerable women, will not be able to dismiss the mutilation and medicating of thousands of children with the, 'yeah, well it's always happened!'

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Feb 19, 2022Liked by Eliza Mondegreen

Fabulous as usual. I keep asking, though, what will turn this around? The medical community has forgotten this very basic reality — and we're talking mainstream medicine, not the "indigo children" practitioner outliers. How do we get clinicians to take a breath and a step back? To say, "Whoa. Maybe we should base what we're doing on evidence. Maybe we should actually trace our patients to see if our 'assessments' actually lead to consistently positive and statistically significant outcomes." I would love to hear from a clinician who stepped back from the transition precipice and regained his or her bearings.

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Jan 9, 2023·edited Jan 10, 2023Liked by Eliza Mondegreen

Hello Eliza - I absolutely looove this piece!

I have a Danish blog critical of the gender industry and gender ideology - https://www.transkoen.dk/ - where I have linked to the video with you being interviewed by Benjamin Boyce - here: https://www.transkoen.dk/2022/11/15/video-det-sidste-skud-paa-stammen-indenfor-koensskiftevanviddet-paa-sidste-faglige-wpath-konference-droeftede-man-hvordan-man-som-laege-eller-psykolog-skal-kunne-afgoere-hvilke-af-patientens-mang/ - and summed up your points about the assumptions of the gender industry providers.

I collaborate with Genspect and I have translated three of their "Brief Guidances" into Danish and posted them on my blog with permission from Genspect.

I would like to request permission from you to translate this piece here ("Trans exceptionalism and ordinary children") into Danish and post it on my blog.

That way, this excellent essay and its crucial points would be accessible to a wider audience of Danes.

I would of course link to your substack and promote the original, English version of the essay.

Best,

Lotte Ingerslev

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Please do! Email me when you've posted it and I'll share it, too.

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Thank you SO much, Eliza! That would be wonderful. :-)

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Feb 18, 2022·edited Feb 18, 2022Liked by Eliza Mondegreen

Fantastically put Eliza. Brava!

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One set of voices seems completely absent from the debate - we're told that up to 80% of the children grow out of dysphoria. Yet we never hear from them. You very rarely see anyone on social media saying "I thought I was a boy as a child but grew out of it."

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Stella O'Malley, Holly Branson, Jaah Kelly, Shilo Jolie Pitt off the top of my head.

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Simply put and powerful. I must admit here to my own irritation and intolerance towards trans identified people in that very respect. The absence of attrition and the otherwordliness which have served to demean and cancel the common or garden mother or the social worker. How this unearned status has in fact been thoroughly exploited by human resourcefulness, in the manner that coercion is applied to condemn large swathes of human potential into a pained silence..

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