‘Cis’ girl to testosterone and a double mastectomy (scheduled, at least, if not yet performed) in one year: Dysphoria also tends to be like 'if you give a mouse a cookie' - like, pre transition when I'd dress masc id think 'huh I don't like my boobs in this'. So I got a binder. Then I started thinking about how small my arms were, so I started working out. Which... muscles are nice.. But then if look in the mirror and see a boy, and became aware of how my high voice was keeping me from passing. Before I knew it I was on t with top surgery scheduled, frustrated my facial hair wasn't coming in. But a year before I'd never even thought about my facial hair, or my voice or my body hair or my face shape - I was busy thinking about my boobs, and even then through the lens of 'I, a cis girl, just wish I had smaller titties'
Jun 14, 2022·edited Jul 17, 2022Liked by Eliza Mondegreen
This thinking pattern is so predictable that any of us who are paying attention could have guessed where it was heading from the start. Someone isn't asking these young people the right questions. And coincidentally, it's the same people whose livelihoods and reputations depend upon alleging that an ever-widening focus of body dysmorphia is a sign of "knowing yourself."
Ladies, choose your oppression -- Either lean in to your sexual objectification or run from it. Whether you're trying to downplay your features because you don't want to be sexualized or play up your features because you feel sexualization or being "pretty" has some value, you're a sexual object FIRST. Women learn from the time we're little that others' view of us and use for us is more important than our needs and wants. You haven't escaped your objectification if how you're viewed (passing, etc.) is more important than your needs for unrestricted movement, breathing (both of which are restricted by binders), and the ability to grow and change naturally over time. Binder or push-up bra -- it's all about women being objectified, it's all misogyny.
Jun 14, 2022·edited Jun 14, 2022Liked by Eliza Mondegreen
That is my daughter 100%. I’d add that she started as pan, then lesbian, then identified as a gay boy. 🤦🏻♀️ And it’s why I’m constantly terrified that this is where she’s headed. Right now she’s at the binder stage and planning to work out to increase the size of her arm and back muscles. She also complains that her voice is too high. I have two years to help her change her mind. She just turned 16.
It gets worse. Just when you think they can't be crazier, they outdo themselves.
Matt Walsh* did a video about a transer who claims that *all* children should be given puberty blockers until they decide what sex they want to be. The reason being that puberty is irreversible, so condemning children to the hell of their birth sex is a form of abuse. Yeah, I know. You blinked your eyes and said, "this can't be true. No one is nutty enough to say that."
S/he did. Walsh produced the receipts.
If this sounds evil, well, it is. I'm only the messenger here. Once you cross the threshold into Crazyville there are no guard rails. What will they come up with next?
*I realize that many people here may not like Walsh, but he's bringing a lot of stuff out into the mainstream & introducing people who would not otherwise know about this to the insanity of the transgender movement. I don't agree with him on much but I get my info where it's available. Politics makes strange bedfellows.
All driven by the fact this stuff is available. They think only of how they think it will be with no awareness of downsides like roid rage on T or that lots of these are irreversible.
This thinking pattern is so predictable that any of us who are paying attention could have guessed where it was heading from the start. Someone isn't asking these young people the right questions. And coincidentally, it's the same people whose livelihoods and reputations depend upon alleging that an ever-widening focus of body dysmorphia is a sign of "knowing yourself."
Ladies, choose your oppression -- Either lean in to your sexual objectification or run from it. Whether you're trying to downplay your features because you don't want to be sexualized or play up your features because you feel sexualization or being "pretty" has some value, you're a sexual object FIRST. Women learn from the time we're little that others' view of us and use for us is more important than our needs and wants. You haven't escaped your objectification if how you're viewed (passing, etc.) is more important than your needs for unrestricted movement, breathing (both of which are restricted by binders), and the ability to grow and change naturally over time. Binder or push-up bra -- it's all about women being objectified, it's all misogyny.
That is my daughter 100%. I’d add that she started as pan, then lesbian, then identified as a gay boy. 🤦🏻♀️ And it’s why I’m constantly terrified that this is where she’s headed. Right now she’s at the binder stage and planning to work out to increase the size of her arm and back muscles. She also complains that her voice is too high. I have two years to help her change her mind. She just turned 16.
It gets worse. Just when you think they can't be crazier, they outdo themselves.
Matt Walsh* did a video about a transer who claims that *all* children should be given puberty blockers until they decide what sex they want to be. The reason being that puberty is irreversible, so condemning children to the hell of their birth sex is a form of abuse. Yeah, I know. You blinked your eyes and said, "this can't be true. No one is nutty enough to say that."
S/he did. Walsh produced the receipts.
If this sounds evil, well, it is. I'm only the messenger here. Once you cross the threshold into Crazyville there are no guard rails. What will they come up with next?
*I realize that many people here may not like Walsh, but he's bringing a lot of stuff out into the mainstream & introducing people who would not otherwise know about this to the insanity of the transgender movement. I don't agree with him on much but I get my info where it's available. Politics makes strange bedfellows.
Oppression points, evilizing cishet people, and good old fashioned brainwashing.
Horrifying, but relatable to anyone who was teenage girl.
All driven by the fact this stuff is available. They think only of how they think it will be with no awareness of downsides like roid rage on T or that lots of these are irreversible.
All the best to you and your daughter.As a mother ,I can understand the heartbreak you are experiencing!
Sad . Such distorted thoughts leading to surgery and a life of dependence on drugs .