I’m working on a longer piece (for publication elsewhere) about the difficult position parents of trans-identified children (of any age) are in. If you are such a parent—whatever approach you have taken with regard to your child’s gender identity—and there’s a story or reflection you want to share about your experience that I could quote (anonymously) or summarize (if you would prefer not to be quoted), please email me at elizamondegreen@gmail.com. You may also respond here, if you prefer.
I don’t want to be overly prescriptive about what I’m looking for — I want to hear what parents have to say. But if you’re stuck on where to begin: what do you wish people understood about being the parent of a trans-identified kid? Where have you turned for support? How have you interacted with your pre-existing support networks? What experiences have you had with clinicians and therapists? What have you learned?
Thanks to all you who shared your stories with me. This isn’t the only piece I intend to write about parents. Down the road, when I have a little more breathing room in my schedule, I’d like to do some in-depth interviews (like this one). So this isn’t the last such request.
Please email me. What I can tell you is well worth knowing. I am a parent in Minnesota. My story maybe different than others as I had no idea my ex was transitioning our minor child while she was Illegally withholding the child from my parental time with the child. I share co-legal, yet the state put themselves in the center of this issue, while hiding their intentions from me.
It will be cathartic to share our story with someone who is interested, thank you. So many friends honestly can’t believe what doctors tried to do when I tell them.
Before starting your research you should watch this short video. Helen dares to say the quiet part out loud. Keep this fact in your mind at all times especially when evaluating a person's honesty.
"as such a parent" -- at least metaphorically speaking -- I'm certainly interested in emailing you about the "approach I have taken with regard to my child’s gender identity" -- if you're at all interested.
However, I think you need to specify -- in 25 words or less -- exactly what you mean by "gender identity". As I had requested in a comment on a recent post of yours.
Seems to me that the crux of the matter is how children, how we all develop our senses of self, and how that process can go off the rails and into the weeds in so many ways. An absolutely awesome responsibility to shepard kids into a more or less functional adulthood -- the hand that rocks the cradle rules the nation. Which is maybe some reason to argue that too many "parents" have fallen down on the job or never showed up for it in first place.
But in any case, some reason -- in fact, many reasons -- to argue that gender identity may be somewhat akin to the imaginary friends that many have argued presaged, that were and are the harbingers of both religion and consciousness itself. For example, see:
I could email you but would you be available for a zoom? I kinda hate writing about it anymore but happy to chat
Thank you for wanting to write about parents. We are victims too.
I will email you as well.
Please email me. What I can tell you is well worth knowing. I am a parent in Minnesota. My story maybe different than others as I had no idea my ex was transitioning our minor child while she was Illegally withholding the child from my parental time with the child. I share co-legal, yet the state put themselves in the center of this issue, while hiding their intentions from me.
Regards,
Brent
Is there a certain aspect of this that you're most interested in hearing about?
I'll be emailing you!
It will be cathartic to share our story with someone who is interested, thank you. So many friends honestly can’t believe what doctors tried to do when I tell them.
My Own Realities | Storyboard Theater | The Termination of Parental Rights
https://rumble.com/v2hnquw-my-own-realities-storyboard-theater-the-termination-of-parental-rights.html
I will also be sending you an email.
I'd be happy to talk to you.
Before starting your research you should watch this short video. Helen dares to say the quiet part out loud. Keep this fact in your mind at all times especially when evaluating a person's honesty.
The Mistake That Cannot Be Unmade or Admitted
https://twitter.com/robbystarbuck/status/1681878080040628229?s=20
Yep, I'll be sending you an email.
Thank you. I appreciate that. I have began to be very vocal on Twitter. @BrentBowlby if anyone cares to see what's really going on in Minnesota.
"as such a parent" -- at least metaphorically speaking -- I'm certainly interested in emailing you about the "approach I have taken with regard to my child’s gender identity" -- if you're at all interested.
However, I think you need to specify -- in 25 words or less -- exactly what you mean by "gender identity". As I had requested in a comment on a recent post of yours.
Seems to me that the crux of the matter is how children, how we all develop our senses of self, and how that process can go off the rails and into the weeds in so many ways. An absolutely awesome responsibility to shepard kids into a more or less functional adulthood -- the hand that rocks the cradle rules the nation. Which is maybe some reason to argue that too many "parents" have fallen down on the job or never showed up for it in first place.
But in any case, some reason -- in fact, many reasons -- to argue that gender identity may be somewhat akin to the imaginary friends that many have argued presaged, that were and are the harbingers of both religion and consciousness itself. For example, see:
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Origin_of_Consciousness_in_the_Breakdown_of_the_Bicameral_Mind
Something of a delicate operation to tenderly nurture that first spark.
Hi Eliza, I’ve written quite a bit in the comments of others’ substacks. I will email you.
I’ll send you an email too.
Are you asking us to refer to you parents we know about?
Deadline?