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This is such an important point -- we don't SEE girls. When you think of the various epidemics that have spread among girls over the years, a lot of them seem to play out the ambivalence many of us feel about being seen: eating disorders (the struggle to be smaller), self-harm (scars may draw attention to the fact we're in pain), transition (attempts to erase our femaleness). Even older "ailments" like conversion disorder (where a certain part of your body may become paralyzed or numb) or hysterical neuroses in which a girl might display very bizarre behavior seem to have the effect of making us seen but also not seen.

Perhaps we're seen as ill but not seen as oppressed. This is similar to what happens in cases of abuse -- a girl might start wetting the bed or display overly sexualized behavior which brings her attention but if we focus on the behavior or symptom and blame her for it, we don't see that she's being abused. Girls have been begging us for centuries to look deeper.

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We’re not girls. Stop acting like we’re too dumb and stupid to understand our identities just because we were born with vaginas. Your sexism is appalling.

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"Scotland’s gender clinic for children doesn’t even track patients’ sex. Elective double mastectomies on teenage girls become ‘chest reconstruction’ on ‘boys.’ See how the moral calculus shifts?"

Have they no shame? No decency?

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