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Cracking analysis of this whole area of 'pretending'.

We know they're pretending.

They know they're pretending.

We know they know they're pretending.

They know we know they know...

(Now I'm just like Joey in that episode of 'Friends' where he gets all confused...)

I do miss one little phrase from your original twitter thread though.

Here you tell Chase to 'put the toys away'. Fair enough.

But in the original, you told him to 'take your head out of your arse'.

There was something unexpectedly delightful in reading that from your elegant pen..

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lol

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*her

“But in the original, you told HER to ‘take your head out of your arse’”.

Playing the pronoun game helps no one and actually cements, if not promotes trans ideology.

We use she/her pronouns for females. Chase is a female ergo we use she/her pronouns for her. By using her preferred pronouns you are tacitly agreeing that the changes she as made to her appearance, changing her name et al change her from a female (she/her pronouns) to a male (he/him pronouns.

This is not an attack on you, it’s a personal bugbear of mine when gender critical people (and a LOT of gc people do it) give power to the idea that sex is mutable by using wrong sex pronouns and I’ve chosen to draw attention to it wherever (and whenever) I see it.

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You're absolutely right, and definitely right to bring attention to it.

That was an oversight on my part. I was distracted by remembering with fondness Eliza's colourful phrase, and didn't think.

Still, I guess it's a good example of how insidious it is, no?

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It does creep into your brain that’s for sure.

The British (regarding Eliza’s colourful language) have the best colourful phrases in the English speaking world IMHO.

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"pretending ..."

Sure a lotta people these days who seemed to be unclear on the difference between reality and illusion, between substance and appearance, between being X and identifying-as X. ICYMI, my Medium essay thereon:

https://medium.com/@steersmann/reality-and-illusion-being-vs-identifying-as-77f9618b17c7

But one might suggest that "pretending" is rather ubiquitous, that it is hardly unique to the transgendered. The "is it natural or is it Clairol?" advertisement for example. And I see that there were a million "breast augmentation" surgeries performed over a 25 year period from 1963 to 1988; presumably most of those were on "natal females":

https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/7625509/

"Are they natural or are they silicone/saline?" Only her plastic surgeon knows for sure ....

However, there does seem to be a number of quite significant differences between the two cases - rather large number of transwomen (compound word like "crayfish" which ain't) get rather "peeved" when one doesn't play along with their delusions:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Lb6OpRfyLFo

Was quite amused to see a follow-up/spoof on that "it's 'ma'am' ..." incident where the individual in question had gone to see "her" doctor, had insisted on the "ma'am" pronoun to the doctor who had responded by saying, "ma'am, you have prostate cancer" ...

People may want to lie to other people and to themselves, but there are some "brute facts" that no amount of wishing will ever sweep under the carpet or nullify. Far too many of the transgendered have clearly crossed the Rubicon, are more than a few tokes over the line, are crazier than shithouse rats.

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It is true that do a lot of pretending in society, but I cannot think of any other pretense than that of transgenderism being real that is enforced by draconian laws.

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Indeed - about the only other case of "draconian laws" that springs to mind is maybe blasphemy laws, the last of them in the "Civilized West" - Ireland - biting the dust only a few short years ago.

But largely agree that transgenderism takes the cake for "pretense", and "draconian laws" along with others including "medical scandals", "pseudoscience", and "new religion". You might "enjoy" an oldish article by Michelle Goldberg:

"Though 'trans women are women' has become a trans rights rallying cry, [transwoman] Highwater writes, it primes trans women for failure, disappointment, and cognitive dissonance. She calls it a 'vicious lie.' …."

https://slate.com/human-interest/2015/12/gender-critical-trans-women-the-apostates-of-the-trans-rights-movement.html

As for "a lot of pretending" and along the line of which, you might also "like" the classic "The Culture of Narcissism":

"... a 1979 book by the cultural historian Christopher Lasch, in which the author explores the roots and ramifications of what he perceives as the normalizing of pathological narcissism in 20th-century American culture using psychological, cultural, artistic and historical synthesis."

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Culture_of_Narcissism

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Eliza, thanks for writing the letter we all want to send to Chase Strangio! It always feels so confusing to me when the trans-identified accuse gender critical people of pretending they don't exist or trying to erase them. Um--yeah, we know only too well that you exist, and we know what you demand. Why would we be devoting our precious human moments on earth to fighting this ideology if you did not only EXIST with your peculiar religion, but DEMAND that the rest of the world play make-believe in your dangerous games? We do understand that you get unhappy when reality intrudes. We don't relish your pain (at least I don't) at this disruption of your fantasy. But your distress with reality is less important than the fight for women to have autonomy over our bodies.

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I am still offended by the gender Identity philosophy in their conservative patriarchal insistence that all feminine presenting humans must be women and all male presenting humans must be men and then call that non-binary. Do I have that right? I'm still not sure but that seems to be the result. Women turning magically into men because of their hair style and clothes and men turning into women for the same reason. That takes a shit ton of pretending. Can't we have short hair and wear trousers and still be women? Why not? According to the supposed rules of the philosophy, I should have been a man for my entire 62 years because of how I comfortably presented my external preferences. Because that's all they are.

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Frankly, people like Ms Chase are the ones literally erasing their own existence by denial of their own sex and sex class.

Chase et all can present and pretend all they like - lie to themselves to their heart's content - but they do NOT have the right to demand, compel and bully everyone else, to lie as well.

This is the crux of the matter.

Lying about the material reality of dimorphic sexed bodies.

It helps no one. It harms everyone.

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Perfection, I am this close (real close) to sending to my daughters.

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sadly, i would only cause strife if I sent this to our older daughter. She is a woman but is so very strident in her views about trans/sexual labels. Unless she raises the issue, we all avoid it

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Thank you for letting people post comments on your articles. I am an elderly gay man. Until the trans issue became front and center, I viewed liberals as the rational people in society, but that has changed. The conservatives have their Trump fantasy man, and liberals have their trans fantasies. What I don't understand is how 1% of the population has managed to brainwash all the liberals. There seems to be something about people trapped in the wrong bodies that pushes the empathy buttons of liberals. Liberals imagine that it is such a horrible existential torture to be trapped in the wrong body that they are willing to accept whatever B.S. trans people throw at them.

Trans activists have also been very effective at creating an image of trans people as murder victims. True, a lot of trans people are murdered -- BUT, a lot of natural women are also murdered by men. Also, fewer trans women would be murdered if they didn't go into the sex business, which a lot of them do. But what else is a woman with large breasts and male genitals to do?

Trans activists have also been successful at convincing liberals that there are millions of trans children out there whose suffering is all the more intense because they are young and don't have an adult's emotional defenses. Such children need to see a medical professional immediately to start getting hormone injections and to plan for their first surgery.

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You touch eloquently upon the dual insanites that afflict both sides of the American political spectrum. It's no coincidence they're occurring simultaneously: they amplify each other, and must, at least in part, result from social media screwing with our brains. Imagine if in 2005 you'd predicted the 2020's would see President Donald Trump, AND the widescale acceptance by every powerful American institution that women can have penises. You'd have been written off as insane. Hell, you might have been called insane if you predicted it as late as 2012. Yet here we are. Half the country thinks the other half is crazy, and they're both right. Hard to say what the upshot will be. These are uncharted waters. But it's hard to imagine it ending well.

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You can fool some of the people all of the time, or all of the people some of the time, but you can't fool all of the people all of the time. Trans people are trying their best to achieve the impossible.

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Never having previously encountered Chase Strangio -- who, from the photo, appeared to be male -- I was too thrown by trying to figure out the grammatical structure of his inscrutable Twitter question, to have any idea what it meant:

(a) "For those of us who are not women, who can become pregnant, ..." -- but how can a man become pregnant?

or (b) "For those of us who are not women-who-can-become-pregnant" -- ie, for men?

"... is the preference that we pretend that we don't exist or that we simply stop existing?"

Whose preference? and why any such binary supposition on the part of whom, that men should pretend they don't exist, or should stop existing?

Ah -- but I'd forgotten this is a Substack about TRANS people. So what looks like "he" must be "she": a trans-identified female talking (for a change).

But denying she is a woman? or denying that she is a woman-who-can-become-pregnant? (as a result of testosterone treatment?) Or implying that she is a man but can become pregnant -- which would mean (a) is probably the grammatically intended meaning -- which is a conceit too far for me...

But unfortunately she's wrong. The effort required to figure out what the hell she is on about makes my preference far simpler: that she stops pretending to be something she's not, and learns how to use punctuation.

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Ms. Gabriel: Strangio, having "transitioned" to a man, has adopted as many male characteristics as she can in order to be as male as she can be. (As Eliza has noted, trans people are all about appearances.) Strangio apparently thinks that being decisive, uncompromising and dogmatic are male characteristics, and so she has become the most obnoxious and dogmatic of all transgender activists (and that is saying a lot). Strangio is known for her extremist views and her aggressive shaming of people and organizations that don't conform to transgender ideology. For example, she has said that it is "transphobic" for publications to mention a trans person's "deadself" or "deadname" in obituaries, magazine and encyclopedia articles, etc. -- and soon after she said that, that information suddenly became hard to find. She also said that it is "transphobic" to say that a trans woman is a "biological male" (and vice versa for trans men). In other words, Strangio is trying to censor the way that people debate the trans issue.

Strangio is a lawyer for the ACLU and has -- quite controversially -- steered the ACLU away from it's 100-year commitment to free-speech issues, and towards bleeding-heart liberal positions. Strangio famously said that she would censor some anti-trans book that she doesn't like (if she could), even though the ACLU has always been against censorship.

Eliza, I think your article is very good, but I also think it is too full of nuance for Chase Strangio to be able to appreciate it. Strangio doesn't "do" nuance now that she's become a guy.

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Thank you for explaining! She sounds obnoxious.

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Anything and anyone who de-centers women's sex-based oppression and concerns like this is just a patriarchal tentacle--acting on behalf of patriarchy to reinforce women's subordination. What's basically being said is "I'm threatened by women centering their rights". If she wasn't invested in patriarchy, there would be no threat.

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It is at times like this that hashtag no debate should be turned around. But I understand why you felt the need to respond.

Two other issues come to mind.

First this pervasive notion that there is some inner sense of who we are. My sense of who I am is very complicated and has changed throughout my life. The most enduring aspect of this is that I am a philosopher. At no time have I been comfortable identifying as male. My body is male, yes, but I refused to be socialised according to the usual stereotypes and recognise that quite a lot of maleness in the west is absolutely toxic. I must also admit that have sometimes looked back at what I though about myself and acknowledged that it was complete nonsense. So there has to be a great deal more research done into the inner sense of who we are before we can simply affirm what a person says of themselves.

Secondly this pretending thing. Is it not possible simply to be who one is? And for this to be accepted? This seemed to me to be the case as I was growing up and learning about psychology, sociology (including feminism) and philosophy during the 1980s. In any case by pretending to do or be something one has to do or be that thing. In which case pretending is not what it purports to be.

Thanks again for another stimulating piece of writing.

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i suspect that many of us are fine with trans people being who they want to be..but NOT if they demand that women deny who we are and insist on punishing those who dont fall into life

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“The most dangerous of all psychic epidemics is the ‘mass psychosis’: an epidemic of madness that occurs when a large portion of a society loses touch with reality and descends into delusions...Individuals who make up the infected society become morally and spiritually inferior…[and] sink unconsciously to an inferior intellectual level and become more unreasonable, irresponsible, emotional, erratic, and unreliable." Carl Jung

We need complete detransification (as in denazification) of ALL our institutions. Some of them, including and especially the ACLU, are so far gone that they have to be burned to the ground and rebuilt.

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I think about that quote all the time.

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Brilliantly said.Thank you Eliza.

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